11/10/2009

Good Article

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Here is a great article about Adoptees and Identity published in the New York Times. http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/09/us/09adopt.html?_r=1&em

08/10/2009

Sleep

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The topic of sleep and adoption is a very important one.  Below is a informative (and funny) article about sleep. This is article also provides many helpful links and books suggestions.  

http://www.adoptmed.org/topics/sleep-and-adoption.html

07/06/2009

Growing After Adoption

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Bethany Christian Services has a strong focus on Post Adoption.  Adoption is not a moment where a child is placed in your arms or a piece of paper signed by a judge.  Adoption is life long.  Bethany has always had post adoption support and resources, we now have a director of post adoption resources.  Our post adoption program is now called "Growing After Adoption"  There will soon be a news letter and a web site just for post adoption.  This should be launched later this summer.  In the mean time, here is a back to school resource.  

“My New School” Photo Book
Summer flies by, and before we know it, school will be starting
again! Walking into a new school or classroom can be intimidating for
any child, and can present special challenges for children who experienced
trauma prior to adoption. The Child Trauma Academy has
created a wonderful picture book, “My New School,” that parents
can use to ease their child’s transition. “My New School” is based on
neurodevelopmental principles and is designed to increase a child’s
sense of security and familiarity with the places and faces he or she
will encounter at school. “My New Home” and “My Trip” photo
books are also available. To learn more, visit the Child Trauma Academy
online store: http://ctaproducts.org/mynewscphbo.html.

Also feel free to contact our Growing After Adoption staff person, Christina Adamski MA, LLP for any post adoption needs.  Remember there are 2 "Growing After Adoption" support groups every month, 1 for children and 1 for  parents.  They are held the 3rd Tuesday of the month 5:30: Pizza, 6:00 group.  

Call 396.0623 for more info
Questions or

06/17/2009

Bikers For Bethany

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Annual Motorcycle Ride to Benefit Adoption on September 12, 1009

Bikers for Bethany raises money to help children thrive by meeting their basic physical, emotional, social, intellectual and spiritual needs.  To change the world of a  child in great need and to help him thrive could simply mean providing the assurance of daily food, a safe place to sleep, and a loving hand to hold.  

Join the ride...Event begins at 9 a.m. at Grand Rapids Harley Davidson, 2977 Corporate Grove Dr. Hudsonville MI. Ride begins at 10:00 a.m. and arrives back at Grand Rapids Harley Davidson for Lunch and Bike Show

Click HERE for more info

05/06/2009

Lifebooks

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 Here is some info I received from Adoption Learning Partners.  Feel free to check it out!




Spring is here! The season for new projects and fresh inspiration...a perfect time to start a Lifebook for your child, or to work on the one you already have. 
 
If you like the idea but don't know where to start,  www.AdoptionLearningPartners.org can help!  The course covers some of the things that should be included in a Lifebook, and provides templates you can print out and use.
 
For the month of May, we are offering our course on Lifebooks free of charge.  Beginning June 1, however, there will be a $30 fee.  So there's extra motivation to get started now!   Click here and start today.






05/04/2009

Adopted Child Support Group

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Bethany Christian Services
Adopted Child Support Group


•        Where:
        Bethany Christian Services
        12048 James Street
        Holland MI 49424
        616.396.0623

•        When:
        Third Tuesday of every month
        5:30p-7:30p

•        Who:
        Adopted Children between the age 7-13

Pizza will be served from 5:30-6p

Group will be held from 6-7:30p
•        This group will be led by trained therapists who will provide knowledge, support, and safety to these children. It will serve as a safe place to meet, interact, and learn with other adopted children.

•        There is no charge for this group!

•        Topics will include:
        Self esteem, identity, grief and loss, problem solving skills, anger management, feelings expression, stress management, trauma, and more!

04/29/2009

Bethany Post Adoption Support Groups

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Adoption Support Group
Dates and Topics
May through August ‘09


Tuesday May 19 (5:30 PM – 7:30 PM)
Attaching to our adopted Children: gain insight and awareness about attachment. Bettye Jo Bell will be with us to present this information.

Tuesday June 16 (5:30 PM – 7:30 PM)
Our adopted children and food: Learn what food obsessions mean and how to help.

Tuesday July 21 (5:30 PM – 7:30 PM)
How to handle responses and behaviors of siblings already in the home.

Tuesday August 18 (5:30 PM – 7:30 PM)
Exploring our adopted children’s sleep patterns and how they impact their behavior.


Please RSVP at 616.396.0623
Groups held at Bethany Christian Services Holland, West Building (12048 James St)
*Note this group is for all adoptive parents, International, Domestic and Older Child

02/18/2009

All in the Family of God

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I received this great article and video over email today from a colleague and want to share this amazing story. Please set aside a few minutes of your day and read the linked article and watch the amazing video. Liberty Watching this video made me think of my recent trip to China where I met many orphans. Although I met many children, there were 27 I was asked to assess and find homes for. Watching the video, I began to think of these 27 children and I went back to a journal I wrote while in China. I would like to share it here: It is NOT O.k.

02/13/2009

HIV and Adoption

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HIV is fragile and transmission is difficult. Numerous studies have shown that familiy members do not contract HIV/AIDS thorugh ordinary household activities such as sharing the same cup, hugging, kissing, coughing, sneezing, or spitting. It is spread through direct contact of blood, semen, or through mother to baby. Many people don't realize that the prognosis for children on treatment for their HIV is excellent. They are expected to live long, normal lives. In fact, in the West, HIV is now considered a chronic illness rather than the terminal disease it used to be. Did you know when an HIV positive person is on treatment, the levels of HIV in the blood are brought so low that they are considered undetectable - meaning the possibility of transmission - is that much more remote? In an infant younger than 18 months of age, HIV can be reasonably excluded with two negative HIV viral tests, one at 1 month of age or older, and the other at age 4 months or older. But it is estimated that, without treatment, 50% of HIV+ children in resource-poor settings will die by the age of two. Also, did you know that it is a legal requirement that all HIV+adopted children be added to group insurance plans without pre-existing condition clauses in all 50 states? And many states also require that private insurance plans do the same! In addition, all 50 states have funding programs that will assist with the costs of HIV treatment within specified income guidelines. Here are websites with additional helpful information for families considering HIV kids. www.fromhivtohome.org www.kidswalkingkidshome.org www.facinglife.tv/episode/season_3/episode_7/episode_307_video_full.htm For families who may be interested in participating or HIV adopting families who need fundraising assistance Here are some answers to frequently asked questions: 1) How is HIV transmitted? HIV is fragile and transmission is difficult. Numerous studies have shown that family members do not contract HIV/AIDS through ordinary household activities such as sharing the same cup, hugging, kissing, coughing, sneezing or spitting. It is spread through direct contact of blood, semen, or through mother to baby. The rate of mother to child transmission is 20% without treatment of the mother during her pregnancy, and 10% with treatment. (lower in the US) 2) How do we test for HIV? The most accessible and least expensive form of testing for HIV is the Antibody method. This is fairly accurate after 18 months of age. Prior to 18 months, it is accurate if it is negative. If positive, it could be a result of the antibodies acquired by the child from the mother’s HIV status. To find out if a child under 18 months has HIV, a direct method such as the DNA PCR test needs to be performed. It can be done as early as 48 hrs of age, but only 40% of people with the disease will test positive at that time. If done at 2 weeks that number changes to 93%, and by 4 weeks of age we can be pretty sure of the HIV status with a 99% sensitivity. 2) Can he/she grow out of HIV? No, it is a lifelong disease. There are times when a child may test positive from the antibody, before aprox 18 months, and then test negative later in life due to the passing of the mother’s antibody. 2) How long will my child live? In the US, HIV has gone from a terminal illness to a lifelong chronic illness. With current treatments, life expectancy is indefinite. There is no reason to expect a child would not have a normal lifespan if continued on proper treatment, and there is no way to see a difference in their looks or behavior after treatment. In developing countries, HIV is often left untreated and so the average life span of a child infected at birth is 2 to 3 years. 3) Will my child be able to marry and have children? There are many examples of monogamous relationships that have not passed the virus from an infected partner to an uninfected partner. This is done with certain precautions in place. There are also techniques such as “sperm washing” that allow more certainty in childbearing. 3) How is he/she treated? Once diagnosed, the child will need monitoring of the amount of virus in the blood (HIV viral load) and their immune system strength (CD4 count). These levels, as well as how the child is doing with other sicknesses, determines when they will be started on treatment. Once started on treatment, it is currently recommended for life without interruption. Treatment usually consists of HAART (Highly Active Anti Retroviral Treatment). It includes 3 different types of medications active against the HIV virus that is taken in doses twice a day, every day. The most important part of this treatment is that the doses are taken completely, without missing any doses, to prevent the build up of resistance by the HIV virus to the medication. It is usually months after being on the medications that a person’s viral load is undetectable. The implications of this are two fold. One, is that while in theory, the virus is still transmittable, it is very unlikely. Two, the person’s immune system is then as strong as it would be without HIV. Follow up CD4 counts and viral loads are performed every 3-4 months. 4) What are the side effects of the medications? This is quite variable dependent on the type of medication used. One of the common classes, called Protease Inhibitors, can cause a predisposition to “metabolic disorders” such as diabetes and high cholesterol later in adulthood. These things are then monitored closely, and actively prevented when possible. 5) Who should we tell? This can be one of the most difficult parts of adopting an HIV child. It should be a matter of prayer and seeking the Lord’s wisdom. Confidentiality laws are in place to protect parents and their children. According to the AIDS Legal Council of Chicago, the child's pediatrician is required to notify the state Board of Health. Otherwise, disclosure is totally at the discretion of the parents. How is this treatment paid for? The amended ERISA Act of 1993 requires that any group health plan providing coverage for dependent children must provide benefits for an adopted child under the same terms and conditions that apply to a biological child of a plan participant. Most group insurance companies cannot exclude treatment for HIV. If you do not have access to insurance coverage, there are also state programs for children with special health care needs (CSHCS) through the local health department, as well as nationally funded programs that cover the cost of medication. 6) Where can I get more info? http://www.adoption-link.org/chances-by-choice-program.aspx http://adoptionadvocates.org/ethiopia/ethiopia_faqs.php nih.gov cdc.gov there are also adoption blogs written by families who have adopted an HIV positive child.

01/28/2009

Africa's Child Family Resale Store

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We wanted to share the news of the opening of "Africa's Child" Family Resale store! Rob and Christa Murphy are heading this up. The Murphy's adopted a little boy from Zambia about a year ago and plan to go back to Zambia in a few months to begin work with "Vox United". The store is on Lakewood in Holland located just East of the Wal*Mart and Goodwill entrance in the old Northgate Applicance store, for those of you who know Holland. The store will be selling donated items to fund the mission and programs in Zambia. Programs will focus on HIV/AIDS prevention and treatment programs for orphans and vulnerable children, and community development programs. However, we do not want to limit what God will do with this store, and believe that it will be a light for the plight of the orphan all over Africa, and a tool to bring about justice for the oppressed. If you would like to support this new ministry, here are some options, suggested by the Murphy family (They adopted a little boy from Zambia, and are heading up this project): 1. Donate: Bring in your TAX-DEDUCTIBLE donations via either. Drop-off at 415 Lakewood Blvd (currently has a Holland Discount Furniture sign by the road) on Friday or Saturday Jan 23 and 24 between the hours of 9:30 and 5:30 (more hours to come soon for next week) or pick up - call 616 566 3446 to schedule a time to pick up from your location, or a different drop off time. We are looking for gently used clothes, furniture, hardware, household goods, etc........ 2. Volunteer! Donate a few hours a day, a week or a month to make it all happen. This store is definitely a team effort! Contact us via email or phone to find out more. 3. Apply: We are taking resumes for two mangager postions: Lead Manager and Assistant Manager. There is also a need for a Volunteer trainer/coordinator. If you know anyone looking for a full or part time job, please send them our way. 4. Share ideas : "Africa's Child" is a concept store, meaning that the store will tell a story on the walls and throughout that will let the shopper know they are supporting orphans and needy people in Africa. ---We will be putting the pictures of children who have been adopted from Africa on a wall along with a small bit about their story. We are interested in contacting families who have adoption as part of their story. -- Also if you are gifted in art and design and want to give you voice to the design, we need to hear from you ASAP! 5. Most importantly - SPREAD THE WORD! Share this info with all those around you - you are influential in making it happen. Could you make an announcement at your church? your workplace? your neighborhood? your rec group? Get creative, and let us know if we can help. For more info., feel free to contact the Murphy's at impactextreme@yahoo.com