Dec 01, 2015
by Kallie, adoptive mother
As my husband, David, and I prepared to marry in 2007, we discussed building our future family. We decided we would commit our family size to the Lord and pursue adoption when our days of bearing biological children were done. Yet, after three and a half years, this was not to be. We wanted a child so badly, and so many children in the world were waiting for a family. We decided to start saving for an international adoption.
For nearly four years, we worked hard, saved money, and waited. We moved from Minnesota to Florida, to Iowa. My husband went from being a seminary student, to Vicar (pastoral intern), to ordained minister. I worked as a teacher’s aide in preschool, first grade, and second grade. We lived a frugal lifestyle on only David's income while saving mine.
In November of 2012, we were ready to begin the adoption process, and our home study was completed the following March. That was a longer than average process for us because we struggled to choose a country program. After many weeks of wrestling in prayer, we hesitantly declared Hong Kong and fully expected a long wait.
In His Time
We were pleasantly surprised by how quickly we identified a waiting child that might be a good fit for our family. We committed to adopting "Lincoln" on April 23, 2013. But the next part of the wait was long, difficult, and complex. Our fingerprints were done. Our dossier was completed, reviewed, and shipped to Hong Kong. We completed our 30 hours of required adoption education, answered supplemental questions from the Hong Kong government, and chose a name for our son: “Jahleel Kai Lik Hin.”
“Kai Lik Hin” is a Chinese name that means “triumphant.” Since we brought him home right after Easter, his name will forever point us to Christ's triumph over sin and death. “Jahleel” is a biblical Hebrew name David and I had picked out in our very first months as husband and wife. It means "wait for the Lord," forever reminding us that He makes all things beautiful in His time.
We did wait on the Lord, and he carried us through a long and difficult season. We were matched with our son in November 2013, and we were able to travel to Hong Kong in April 2014. We finally met Jahleel on April 23, 2014, exactly one year to the day we committed to him.
In His Way
God abundantly blessed our efforts to financially support our adoption through Bethany's Caring Connection. We got word that we would receive a grant the same day we booked our flights and rented a portable oxygen concentrator for Jahleel's possible use on the return flight—that was not cheap! We are still amazed at how the Lord reached down and provided for us so instantaneously!
We continue to be blessed by this grant as we build Jahleel’s specialty medical care team. The nearest children’s hospital is 100 miles away from our home, and we have already traveled there twice for appointments with specialists. We are very thankful to have a little extra set aside for medical travel expenses.
Despite his challenges, Jahleel is an extremely happy, laid-back little boy. His adjustment to our family has been very smooth, and having him with us feels very natural. The joy with which he lives his life inspires us to keep things in perspective. Parenting a child with special needs truly does fix our eyes on things above.
Kallie and David received financial assistance for Jahleel's adoption through Caring Connection. This fund has helped make it possible for families to adopt older children, sibling groups, or children with special needs. Learn more or contribute at www.bethany.org/caringconnection.